Dear Joshua and Joy, there's a part of marriage that's explainable and understandable, like the social aspect, the financial aspect, the sexual aspect etc. That doesn't mean it's easy to grasp, but it's still more or less explicable. But there's another part of marriage that is Mystery. May both of you grow in your insight into this spiritual aspect, how your lives truly become "one flesh" and how your relationship mirrors to a degree the relationship within the Trinity! It's a lifelong journey of learning. My prayer for you is that God will show Himself to you in your marriage and you will help others in their journeys of discovery. Pastor Joshua Sudharman (SJSM)